Hello my angels,
As some of you may remember, during the prehistoric ages of the blog, I wrote an article, since then rewritten and found here, about how to love yourself on a day to day basis. I've received some lovely feedback from you all, especially through the heartbreaking and inspiring emails I've read over the past 2 and a half years. How. Ever.
When I gave you the advice to look for 3 positive things about your body, some of you replied:
"But Gabby, I don't have any positive things about my body".
Let me just take a second to prepare my head-smacking hand.
I understand where you come from, you know I do. When you are filled with self-hatred, observing the the smallest beauty particle seems a rather daunting task.
But you must also understand that you are wrong.
There are thousands of physical attributes you possess that I, myself, find beautiful.
Sometimes it's just about knowing where to look, and knowing how to start.
My suggestion for self-love first timers?
Yes, those 2 roundish blog smack dab in the middle of your face. Their beginner status lies in the 3 body positive characteristics of any beautiful body part:
No one's eyes look the same. When you're thinking about finding beauty on your face, really look into your eyes.
Their color, whether light blue or dark brown, with millions of different light and dark spectrums of color in between?
Their shape, whether oval or round, framing the irises like the gold filigree around a Monet?
Their features, whether big or small, filled with lashes or bare like a beautiful blank canvas?
There can be nothing wrong with your eyes in terms of beauty, because no one's eyes are identical in any of the former ways. Your eyes are your eyes only, and that makes them more beautiful than anything else in the world.
Think the same way about your nose or your lips, in terms of originality, and you're on your way to self love stardom!
Sometimes it's important to take a step back and look at our bodies not as sexual objects designed to please the modern beauty standards, but as freaking fantastic machines that make our opportunities endless.
Think for a quick second about what your eyes do for you everyday. You see the people that you love, the colors that you favour, the foods that you crave, the sights others would kill to see!
We don't spend enough time thanking our bodies for what they help us do.
Beauty isn't just "eh ma gurd that's pretty". It's also strength, and talent, and giving.
By those standards, what is more beautiful than your eyes?
Usually I have a 3rd reason for everything.
But this time its up to you to decide why your eyes are beautiful.
Maybe it's the glasses you wear, or the darkness of your undereye circles (I happen to like that, don't judge me).
Whatever the case may be, find beauty, hold on to it, and have a body positive day.