Happy Friday my lovely fudgies! <3
I wanted to update you all on the ANEB partnership I kinda/sorta/briefly mentioned in passing a few months ago.
For those who do not know what ANEB is, you are missing out!
It basically stands for Anorexia and Bulimia Quebec, but you can benefit from their ressources regardless of your location.
Here is their website: www.anebquebec.com
They have a lovely forum, some great ressources and helplines especially for my fellow Montrealers.
I'll let you discover their magic on you own!:)
A few months ago I sent them an email saying that I loved their organization and asked if we could possibly partner in some way.
To my GRAND surprise, they actually answered me. (by the way, no one ever answers my emails, hence the excitement :P)
Now, since I didn't have a specific idea of partnership, they simply told me that if ever I wanted to work with them on an event, I could contact them and see what we could do together.
So.
I should probably start planning another event.
:)
I'll be working on that as soon as my life starts to calm down (so, never? ha.ha.ha.), and it will probably be this summer.
What kind of event?you may be asking yourself.
...
...
...
I, um, litterally have no ideas.
But, fear not, YOU ARE ALL A LOT MORE CREATIVE THAN I.
So if you could send me an email, tweet me or comment below (i know the commenting system sucks, im trying to fix that in the near-ish futur) to tell me what kind of event you would like to attend, where, when, etc.
That would be lovely. :)
Thanks in advance, I'm anticipating your awesome ideas <3
As always, love yall
xoxoxoxoxo
Gabby
11/9/12
10/29/12
Validating Your Pain
Hello my gorgeous fudgies!
How has Monday been treating yall ?<3
First of all, I must apologize for my absence these last few days, weeks, it's not been months, has it?...
See, when you can't remember the last time you posted, that's when you KNOW you're in trouble :)
Exam sessions...they be crazy...(I'm tired, therefor, I am grammatically handicapped)
Today, I wanted to discuss something with you, regarding the original purpose of this blog.
Yes, we are travelling back in time to the prehistoric year of 2011, where it all began...
Monday, October Something-or-other (17, I think?), 2011
I'm sitting in a doctor's examination room.
It is 3:45, I skipped school for this appointment, because I can't imagine spending another day like this.
The doctor (Dr. Erdstein; yes I DARE speak his name) is asking me some questions.
He looks bored, he's not even trying to understand why I'm bawling my eyes out.
He leaves the room (looking for coffee perhaps...a girl? In my office, dying? nonsense), and I just sat there, staring at the Children's hospital across the street.
Little did I know a few weeks later I'd be in one of those sterile, creepy rooms staring down that same little doctor's office.
This has been going on for too long, the pain is too deep, the façade too heavy.
Yet no one seems to understand, or even acknowledge it.
«Why are you feeling this way?»
Well you see, oh wise one, if I knew that we would NOT BE HAVING THIS CONVERSATION.
...
Am I imaginating my own illness?
STOP.
That is exactly how people convince themselves they are well, they are healthy, they are happy.
Before wanting to get help, receive treatment, start over, smile...
I wanted someone to validate it.
And when I think about what I want you all to take from my own and each other's experiences,it certainly is nota loss of hope for humanity.
IT'S JUST THAT WHAT YOU'RE FEELING IS REAL.
OTHER PEOPLE HAVE FELT THAT WAY OR FEEL LIKE THAT RIGHT NOW.
I know...crazy!
SOLUTION: FORUMS.
There are plenty of sites for people suffering different issues, from just every stuff to actual mental illness.
It can make you see your not-alone-ness (again, grammar handicapped. I apologize)
Here are a few I found for all sorts of issues, but don't forget GOOGLE IS YOUR BFF if you can't find one for you :)
1. anxiety: http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/
2. eating disorders: http://www.mentalhealthforum.net/forum/forum32.html
3. depression: http://forums.psychcentral.com/forumdisplay.php?f=6
So no, you are not making up these problems
you are not helpless
you are not crazy (technically, legally...well I don't really know you:P).
You are just a human. A fudgie, actually, the best species there is. <3
Promise to write loads more this week, mmkay?
xoxoxoxoxoo
Gabby
How has Monday been treating yall ?<3
First of all, I must apologize for my absence these last few days, weeks, it's not been months, has it?...
See, when you can't remember the last time you posted, that's when you KNOW you're in trouble :)
Exam sessions...they be crazy...(I'm tired, therefor, I am grammatically handicapped)
Today, I wanted to discuss something with you, regarding the original purpose of this blog.
Yes, we are travelling back in time to the prehistoric year of 2011, where it all began...
Monday, October Something-or-other (17, I think?), 2011
I'm sitting in a doctor's examination room.
It is 3:45, I skipped school for this appointment, because I can't imagine spending another day like this.
The doctor (Dr. Erdstein; yes I DARE speak his name) is asking me some questions.
He looks bored, he's not even trying to understand why I'm bawling my eyes out.
He leaves the room (looking for coffee perhaps...a girl? In my office, dying? nonsense), and I just sat there, staring at the Children's hospital across the street.
Little did I know a few weeks later I'd be in one of those sterile, creepy rooms staring down that same little doctor's office.
This has been going on for too long, the pain is too deep, the façade too heavy.
Yet no one seems to understand, or even acknowledge it.
«Why are you feeling this way?»
Well you see, oh wise one, if I knew that we would NOT BE HAVING THIS CONVERSATION.
...
Am I imaginating my own illness?
STOP.
That is exactly how people convince themselves they are well, they are healthy, they are happy.
Before wanting to get help, receive treatment, start over, smile...
I wanted someone to validate it.
And when I think about what I want you all to take from my own and each other's experiences,it certainly is nota loss of hope for humanity.
IT'S JUST THAT WHAT YOU'RE FEELING IS REAL.
OTHER PEOPLE HAVE FELT THAT WAY OR FEEL LIKE THAT RIGHT NOW.
I know...crazy!
SOLUTION: FORUMS.
There are plenty of sites for people suffering different issues, from just every stuff to actual mental illness.
It can make you see your not-alone-ness (again, grammar handicapped. I apologize)
Here are a few I found for all sorts of issues, but don't forget GOOGLE IS YOUR BFF if you can't find one for you :)
1. anxiety: http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/
2. eating disorders: http://www.mentalhealthforum.net/forum/forum32.html
3. depression: http://forums.psychcentral.com/forumdisplay.php?f=6
So no, you are not making up these problems
you are not helpless
you are not crazy (technically, legally...well I don't really know you:P).
You are just a human. A fudgie, actually, the best species there is. <3
Promise to write loads more this week, mmkay?
xoxoxoxoxoo
Gabby
10/10/12
Handling Stress and Anxiety!
How is Wednesday treating you?
Hello my beautiful fudgies!
I wanted to talk about stress today, because not only does it affect 'most everybody I know, but it can also trigger some serious self-esteem problems.
WHICH IS NOT SOMETHING WE ARE FANS OF IN THE FPP FAMILY, as you probably know by now <3
There are several levels, diagnostics, and consequences to anxiety, but in my book I can think of 2 perfect little words to describe the main cause of this unapologetic feeling:
over.worrying.
That's right, over thinking things that should always be looked from afar with perspective.
First of all, IF ANYBODY GETS STRESSED BECAUSE THEY OVER-DRAMATIZE SITUATIONS, (pente fatale style) I HIGHLY RECOMMEND YOU CHECKING OUT THIS TRICK A PSYCHOLOGIST GAVE ME (IT WORKS SOOOOO SUPER WELL: http://fudgeperfection.blogspot.ca/2012/02/challenge-4-2012-bucket-list.html
Secondly, have you noticed that when you stare at your reflection in a mirror too long, it can get distorted and suddenly every flaw that could ever be imagined magically appears on your face?
(RAISES HAND ENTHUSIASTICALLY) OMG OMG I HAVE I HAVE!!!!
People of Fudge Perfection land; you are all incredibly intelligent but also hell-a creative people.
If your eyes go looking for flaws, oh trust me. THEY WILL FIND THEM, whether they are actually there or not.
So here are some of my tips (besides reading the post I mentioned up there) for handling anxiety
1. Breath in through the nose and let out all the bad anxiety (or air, whatever you wanna call it) through the mouth.
2. Get enough sleep. Yes, I know that it's not that easy, and I'm also incredibly hypocritical, because I don't sleep much at all, BUT IT IS PROVEN THAT TEENS WHO GET 7 OR MORE HOURS OF SLEEP CAN SEE THEIR ANXIETY LEVELS GO DOWN AND BONUS: SEE THEIR GRADES GET HIGHER, UP TO 10% MORE!
So go. to. bed.
3. Find time to be silly. I sing and dance all the time, and, especially when it comes to the former, I'm hilariously awful. But Gabby don't care.
Laugh with your friends, take time to listen to christmas music (alex...), just make sure you live a life that isn't controlled by the things that make you nervous.
4. And finally, for those creatures we see in the mirror, I have 2 full posts about loving your reflection.
How could this still be a PROBLEM??? :P
hahaha jk, but they are here if you need a little reminder
1. post 1
2. post 2
Okay,
Stay Calm and Fudge Perfection `<3
Gabby
10/6/12
Wake Up Feeling Good
Second post in a row say what???!
:)
My lovely fudgies,
I don't know all of you.
Don't know your vices, your weaknesses, your stories.
But hopefully I can know that from now on, every morning, you will wake up feeling light, feeling free, feeling good.
And hoooooow, you ask, can you do that, oh wise one? :P
Here is a little trick that I adhere too religiously, and hopefully it can help you too <3
One of my biggest triggers is waking up feeling bloated, or fat, or just heavy.
Cuz you KNOW that if you wake up on the wrong side of the bed, citizens of the world better run and hide because it is NOT a good day.
And worst of all, YOU feel awful, and YOU want to run and hide from every living creature.
So what I do is make sure that I don't eat or drink anything 2 whole hours before I go to bed (water excluded of course, flavored water is like crack to me).
The next morning, I don't feel pregnant, so humans of this earth are safe yet another day and I feel like I can face almost anything!
Yayyyyyyy!!! Haha if you are alarmed by my cheesiness, you MUST be new.
Hi, I'm gabby :)
Xoxoxoxoxo
Gabby
:)
My lovely fudgies,
I don't know all of you.
Don't know your vices, your weaknesses, your stories.
But hopefully I can know that from now on, every morning, you will wake up feeling light, feeling free, feeling good.
And hoooooow, you ask, can you do that, oh wise one? :P
Here is a little trick that I adhere too religiously, and hopefully it can help you too <3
One of my biggest triggers is waking up feeling bloated, or fat, or just heavy.
Cuz you KNOW that if you wake up on the wrong side of the bed, citizens of the world better run and hide because it is NOT a good day.
And worst of all, YOU feel awful, and YOU want to run and hide from every living creature.
So what I do is make sure that I don't eat or drink anything 2 whole hours before I go to bed (water excluded of course, flavored water is like crack to me).
The next morning, I don't feel pregnant, so humans of this earth are safe yet another day and I feel like I can face almost anything!
Yayyyyyyy!!! Haha if you are alarmed by my cheesiness, you MUST be new.
Hi, I'm gabby :)
Xoxoxoxoxo
Gabby
BINGEtervention: how to control binging <3
Hello my beautiful fudgies,
In the past, I always felt like no matter how many tips, trick or challenges I thought of for you guys, there was always one very important issue I wasn't conquerin: how to control binging.
Even though I talked about why you shouldn't binge in a previous post (click here to check it out),
I couldn't apply it to my real life for more than 2 weeks without my resolve weakening and my unhealthy eating habits creeping back into my life.
Until now.
This trick may seem simple, and it may not work for you, but hopefully it can help someone else who struggles with this issue.
Write it out for Friday:
Here's how I do it:
1. Pick a day in the week when you get to indulge in whatever pleases your cravings (preferably a day when you are relaxed, like Friday, Saturday or Sunday, according to your lifestyle, so you don't eat under stress but rather for a reward) and try to keep that same day each week.
Mine is Friday, because on most Fridays I head over to my friend's house and we watch the best guilty pleasure show in the history of television: Vampire Diaries.
2. Throughout the week, if you are suddenly hit with a craving, write it down in your agenda, on your phone, or wherever. You will have that item, or a list of items, to choose from on Friday when you dip into your food sins :)
3. On Friday, those cravings will probably have died down, so you can pick one or two things from that list and enjoy them slowly, knowing very well you deserve it.
That's it.
Almost sounds too easy, right?
Just trust me on this one, after a lifetime of eating then crying then...well yall know, applying unhealthy, ridiculous weight loss techniques, I FEEL FREE, AND LIGHT, AND LOVELY.
Well...that last one is often from you guys <3 (aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaawwwwwwwwwwwwwww)
xoxoxoxoxoooooooo
Gabby
In the past, I always felt like no matter how many tips, trick or challenges I thought of for you guys, there was always one very important issue I wasn't conquerin: how to control binging.
Even though I talked about why you shouldn't binge in a previous post (click here to check it out),
I couldn't apply it to my real life for more than 2 weeks without my resolve weakening and my unhealthy eating habits creeping back into my life.
Until now.
This trick may seem simple, and it may not work for you, but hopefully it can help someone else who struggles with this issue.
Write it out for Friday:
Here's how I do it:
1. Pick a day in the week when you get to indulge in whatever pleases your cravings (preferably a day when you are relaxed, like Friday, Saturday or Sunday, according to your lifestyle, so you don't eat under stress but rather for a reward) and try to keep that same day each week.
Mine is Friday, because on most Fridays I head over to my friend's house and we watch the best guilty pleasure show in the history of television: Vampire Diaries.
2. Throughout the week, if you are suddenly hit with a craving, write it down in your agenda, on your phone, or wherever. You will have that item, or a list of items, to choose from on Friday when you dip into your food sins :)
3. On Friday, those cravings will probably have died down, so you can pick one or two things from that list and enjoy them slowly, knowing very well you deserve it.
That's it.
Almost sounds too easy, right?
Just trust me on this one, after a lifetime of eating then crying then...well yall know, applying unhealthy, ridiculous weight loss techniques, I FEEL FREE, AND LIGHT, AND LOVELY.
Well...that last one is often from you guys <3 (aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaawwwwwwwwwwwwwww)
xoxoxoxoxoooooooo
Gabby
9/30/12
Tips for a Depressionista: 'Tis the season
I first
heard the term in a grocery store;
Two
middle-aged women scouring the aisles for good Panini bread were having a
conversation when suddenly, one said to the other:
She's going
through a rough time with Mike, but she's a depressionista. She'll be just
fine.
Wipe that
confused look off of your face and stop laughing at the absurdity of those
words (you are obviously doing one of these, for I did both at the same time...people
at the supermarket are afraid of me...).
The term
depressionista (I am assuming, because urban dictionary is not an unbiased
reliable source in my opinion) is tightly linked to another new vocab word:
recessionista.
Now a
recessionista is a mash-up of recession and fashionista- meaning a person who
is able to stay stylish in a time of economic uncertainty.
And
hooooowwwww, you may ask, does that relate to depressionista?
A
depressionista is someone who is prone to mini or hard-hitting depressions, who
is going through a rough patch or just plain simply someone who wants to be
happier B.U.T. who can perk up their mood for the sake of their sanity.
Depressionista&Recessionista:
please who can make it work during hard times.
You may now
ooh and ahh..
AHHHHHH....
<3
So how do
depressionistas beat their blues?
Well here's
a little trick I have found to be mighty helpful.
Go. Season.
Crazy.
What
exactly does that mean?
Back story:
When I came out of the hospital, I wanted to keep the good mood I was in, so I
decided to get really into the holiday spirit. I soon came to the conclusion
that by putting a little effort into the season, you get a little (or even a
lot) of joy back.
So here are
a few ways to do so:
1. Holiday
Happy (all holidays, not just Christmas)
You do not
have to be religious to enjoy the bright, Christmas lights, or the memorable Christmas
morning cartoons.
You
certainly do not need to spend a dime more than you usually would.
Examples:
buy some candy canes instead of your regular desert
Find the
radio station in your area that plays that wonderfully cheesy xmas music
Get
inspired by the festivities to get creative (make your own Halloween
decorations or costume)
Enjoy your
fave classic holiday movies or TV specials
2. Season
Serenity
No need to
get into the commercial holidays if you don't want to!
Seasons are
just as fun!
Examples:
Buy some
fall-scented tea or coffee instead of your regular (DavidsTea anyone?)
Add little
touches to your house decor (leaves in bowls for fall, fresh flowers for
spring)
Enjoy the
loveliness of the weather (nice new warmth in spring, pretty leaves in fall,
beautiful white snow in winter)
And my
ultimate season obsession: candles. Plug-ins. air freshener.
I'm obsessed.
Don't judge me.
And though
this may seem incredibly cheesy (most likely because it is...) it could be all
you need to snap you out of your regular daily routine!
SIDE NOTE: ALEX, PREPARE-TOI, JE VAIS PETITIONER POUR QUE LE
THÈME DE L'ALBUM DES FINISSANTS SOIT.........NOOOOEEELLLLL :)
Lovez yall,
have a
lovely day
xoxoxoxox
Gabby
9/29/12
What Doesn't Kill You
You've all heard it before:
From fortune cookies
To "deep" (please use the quotes to note my mockery) Facebook statutes
Even Kelly Clarkson (love the song btw, no criticism towards the artist herself)
"What doesn't kill makes you stronger!"
So lovely to hear.
So easy to believe.
Yet so incredibly, demoralizingly inaccurate.
Unleash the wrath of the non-believers (or rather the believers in this fairy tale approach to hardship) upon me.
I can take it, my loves.
As someone who has gone down the rabbit hole and almost died crashed into its pits;
As a friend of so many who have skimmed the surface or completely broken out of their capable limits;
I can honestly say I hate that saying.
It makes me feel, of all ironic things to feel, weak.
Because we are somehow exempt from all bad days, or poor choices, with this "new found strength" that so many impose upon us.
And if we ever show a sign of human weakness, it isn't perceived as a bad day.
Oh. No.
It's called a relapse.
And let me tell you something, my dear fudgies, you do not owe anyone the strength expected from you.
You have witnessed your fall, inch by inch, and you are recovering, by taking back every single one of those inches.
You may crawl out of this hole a little bit weaker than Mr sunshine next door.
You may climb out of the darkness a little more fragile than Rose Colored Sunglasses McGee over there.
But as you move on and face the hardship of life, you sure as fudge are a heck of a lot wiser than anyone who ever expected the incredible Hulk out of your morale.
No one knows where you have been.
So don't let them choose where you're going.
Be the strength you need to keep getting a little healthier, a little happier, and just keep fudging perfection.
You know you want to...;) <3 data-blogger-escaped-br="br">
Xoxoxo oxoxox
Gabby
From fortune cookies
To "deep" (please use the quotes to note my mockery) Facebook statutes
Even Kelly Clarkson (love the song btw, no criticism towards the artist herself)
"What doesn't kill makes you stronger!"
So lovely to hear.
So easy to believe.
Yet so incredibly, demoralizingly inaccurate.
Unleash the wrath of the non-believers (or rather the believers in this fairy tale approach to hardship) upon me.
I can take it, my loves.
As someone who has gone down the rabbit hole and almost died crashed into its pits;
As a friend of so many who have skimmed the surface or completely broken out of their capable limits;
I can honestly say I hate that saying.
It makes me feel, of all ironic things to feel, weak.
Because we are somehow exempt from all bad days, or poor choices, with this "new found strength" that so many impose upon us.
And if we ever show a sign of human weakness, it isn't perceived as a bad day.
Oh. No.
It's called a relapse.
And let me tell you something, my dear fudgies, you do not owe anyone the strength expected from you.
You have witnessed your fall, inch by inch, and you are recovering, by taking back every single one of those inches.
You may crawl out of this hole a little bit weaker than Mr sunshine next door.
You may climb out of the darkness a little more fragile than Rose Colored Sunglasses McGee over there.
But as you move on and face the hardship of life, you sure as fudge are a heck of a lot wiser than anyone who ever expected the incredible Hulk out of your morale.
No one knows where you have been.
So don't let them choose where you're going.
Be the strength you need to keep getting a little healthier, a little happier, and just keep fudging perfection.
You know you want to...;) <3 data-blogger-escaped-br="br">
Xoxoxo oxoxox
Gabby
9/20/12
Learning to Walk Again
«I'm learning to walk again
I believe I've waited long enough
Where do I begin?
I'm learning to talk again
Can't you see I've waited long enough
Where do I begin?»
-Walk, Foo Fighters
Hey lovelies!
I have been waiting for ANEB's answer to make a post about our (hopeful, still in progress, they haven't responded in 10000 hours and I'm dying) partnership, but I guess I can't wait forever...(sad look away to hide my tears...)
The quote above is part of a song I love by a band I loooooove.: Walk, by Foo Fighters
Explanation:
Demi Lovato said it best in her MTV documentary, and I said it...well in my special crazy-long babbling Gabby way:
Treatment does not fix you.
I wont repeat everything I said in the cure
but the war isn't over when we sign the treaty of peace.
There are entire lives to rebuild, wounds to heal.
The war is won when we move on, keep going and get stronger as each day goes on.
What I HATE with a capital H.A.T.E. is when people expect us to not make those mistakes anymore.
As if we have somehow come out of this war bionic, with no human qualities, no moments of weakness, of imperfection.
And if we DARE make a human mistake,
POUNCE!! They are quicker to judge than Judy herself.
«Oh! But I thought you didn't do that anymore...really? I thought you were all perfect or whatever...didn't you go to rehab or something?...such a hypocrite»
Learning to live your life.
We don't conciously make that decision do we?
And some of us didn't make the best of that decision...We know it.
But we have taken the biggest leap of faith.
To learn to walk, talk, act, eat, sleep, think, breathe again.
Every decision, every meal, every word is a fight.
Every single second has to be thought over twice.
1.If you are not in that situation, learn to guide, to help the people around you who need your level-headedness.
We need your words of encouragement, your random acts of kindness.
Not your advice (we need to learn to make the right decisions on our own)
Not your abandon.
And certainly not your judgements.
2. If you are in that situation, first of all; you're doing great.
You're stilll living and breathing, and for us that is a much bigger deal than for regular folks.
Progress is slow, and you can't win every battle.
If anyone is making you feel like that's not okay, dump them out on the curb with your leftovers and recycling.
Step by step, learn to fudge perfection.
You are reading this, so wether you like it or not, you want to curse out your demons.
Go all Nike and just do it.
:)
xoxoxoxoxoxo
Gabby
I believe I've waited long enough
Where do I begin?
I'm learning to talk again
Can't you see I've waited long enough
Where do I begin?»
-Walk, Foo Fighters
Hey lovelies!
I have been waiting for ANEB's answer to make a post about our (hopeful, still in progress, they haven't responded in 10000 hours and I'm dying) partnership, but I guess I can't wait forever...(sad look away to hide my tears...)
The quote above is part of a song I love by a band I loooooove.: Walk, by Foo Fighters
Explanation:
Demi Lovato said it best in her MTV documentary, and I said it...well in my special crazy-long babbling Gabby way:
Treatment does not fix you.
I wont repeat everything I said in the cure
but the war isn't over when we sign the treaty of peace.
There are entire lives to rebuild, wounds to heal.
The war is won when we move on, keep going and get stronger as each day goes on.
What I HATE with a capital H.A.T.E. is when people expect us to not make those mistakes anymore.
As if we have somehow come out of this war bionic, with no human qualities, no moments of weakness, of imperfection.
And if we DARE make a human mistake,
POUNCE!! They are quicker to judge than Judy herself.
«Oh! But I thought you didn't do that anymore...really? I thought you were all perfect or whatever...didn't you go to rehab or something?...such a hypocrite»
Learning to live your life.
We don't conciously make that decision do we?
And some of us didn't make the best of that decision...We know it.
But we have taken the biggest leap of faith.
To learn to walk, talk, act, eat, sleep, think, breathe again.
Every decision, every meal, every word is a fight.
Every single second has to be thought over twice.
1.If you are not in that situation, learn to guide, to help the people around you who need your level-headedness.
We need your words of encouragement, your random acts of kindness.
Not your advice (we need to learn to make the right decisions on our own)
Not your abandon.
And certainly not your judgements.
2. If you are in that situation, first of all; you're doing great.
You're stilll living and breathing, and for us that is a much bigger deal than for regular folks.
Progress is slow, and you can't win every battle.
If anyone is making you feel like that's not okay, dump them out on the curb with your leftovers and recycling.
Step by step, learn to fudge perfection.
You are reading this, so wether you like it or not, you want to curse out your demons.
Go all Nike and just do it.
:)
xoxoxoxoxoxo
Gabby
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