Showing posts with label you are not alone. Show all posts
Showing posts with label you are not alone. Show all posts

12/3/12

Picture Perfect

Hello my beautiful fudgies!
How's Monday been treating you? <3

Here's a little scenario for y'all:

You go through life with relatively good self-esteem, as a typical healthy fudgie is likely to. You're not Megan Fox
(let's face it: even some parts of Megan Fox are not in fact Megan Fox...)
but you don't stay up all night crying about it.

Suddenly, out of the blue, your self-esteem gets stabbed by the worst abomination in the history of humanity:
a picture of you.
But not just any picture of you...
NOOOOOOOO.
 A picture in which you think you look, and I quote my friend Lexi, «like the Yeti and Frankenstein's illegitimate child». 

And it is in that moment, ladies and few gentlemen, that we lose our fudgin' minds.


  • We yell at our friends, asking them why they didn't tell us that we looked horrible.
  • We rip, Sharpie, burn, soak in bleach this picture in hopes no one else will suffer from its unattractiveness. 
  • And if ever someone DARED to reassure us that we do not look that bad, or WORSE, that we in fact look...good? All I can legally say is they never found their body. 
Just kidding! ;) 

But how does one handle a scenario like this one without dying inside?!

  1. PUT. THE PICTURE. D.O.W.N. 
It can be so tempting to just stare at it in shock, but trust me, with the frame of mind you are in, the picture won't look any better with time. So push it away, click next, close your eyes or look away.
Let your brain breathe 30 seconds, then proceed to step 2. 

2. THE Y-FACTOR. 
Before jumping off a cliff,  make sure you consider the Y-Factors;
the Y-this-picture-may-be-completly-unrealistic: 
lighting, camera quality, position of your face/ body, photogenic-ness (?), NO AIRBRUSHING
These factors influence in a major way all pictures; look at all the pictures you like of yourself!
You were probably at a good angle, the lighting was probably decent, etc.

3. 3 THINGS I LOVE: PICTURE STYLE
The best trick for self-esteem in the world is about to get  spined-off.
Yes indeed, take that photo and walk through this amazing trick with me one more time.
-  take your picture and in a limited amount of time (say, 60 seconds?), find 3 things you like about yourself in this shot. Anything can do!
Works like a chaaaaarm. <3

4. AND FOR THE LOVE OF ALL THAT IS HOLY
DO NOT. DO. NOT. POST THE PICTURE ON FACEBOOK WITH THE CAPTION; 
«IM UGLY»
in order to get pity compliments.
You could not, no matter how much you tried, sound more insecure. 
Besides, if you announce like so, people will be prepared for flaws, therefore their eyes will be scanning for them.

Alright, that was it!
Hope you all enjoyed<3

muahhhhhh 
xoxoxoxo
Gabby


10/29/12

Validating Your Pain

Hello my gorgeous fudgies!
How has Monday been treating yall ?<3

First of all, I must apologize for my absence these last few days, weeks, it's not been months, has it?...
See, when you can't remember the last time you posted, that's when you KNOW you're in trouble :)
Exam sessions...they be crazy...(I'm tired, therefor, I am grammatically handicapped)

Today, I wanted to discuss something with you, regarding the original purpose of this blog.
Yes, we are travelling back in time to the prehistoric year of 2011, where it all began...

Monday, October Something-or-other (17, I think?), 2011
I'm sitting in a doctor's examination room.
It is 3:45, I skipped school for this appointment, because I can't imagine spending another day like this.
The doctor (Dr. Erdstein; yes I DARE speak his name) is asking me some questions.
He looks bored, he's not even trying to understand why I'm bawling my eyes out.
He leaves the room (looking for coffee perhaps...a girl? In my office, dying? nonsense), and I just sat there, staring at the Children's hospital across the street.
Little did I know a few weeks later I'd be in one of those sterile, creepy rooms staring down that same little doctor's office.

This has been going on for too long, the pain is too deep, the façade too heavy.
Yet no one seems to understand, or even acknowledge it.
«Why are you feeling this way?»
Well you see, oh wise one, if I knew that we would NOT BE HAVING THIS CONVERSATION.

...
Am I imaginating my own illness?

STOP.
That is exactly how people convince themselves they are well, they are healthy, they are happy.

Before wanting to get help, receive treatment, start over, smile...
I wanted someone to validate it.


And when I think about what I want you all to take from my own and each other's experiences,it certainly is nota loss of hope for humanity.

IT'S JUST THAT WHAT YOU'RE FEELING IS REAL.
OTHER PEOPLE HAVE FELT THAT WAY OR FEEL LIKE THAT RIGHT NOW.
I know...crazy!

SOLUTION: FORUMS. 
There are plenty of sites for people suffering different issues, from just every stuff to actual mental illness.
It can make you see your not-alone-ness (again, grammar handicapped. I apologize)
Here are a few I found for all sorts of issues, but don't forget GOOGLE IS YOUR BFF if you can't find one for you :)
1. anxiety: http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/
2. eating disorders: http://www.mentalhealthforum.net/forum/forum32.html
3. depression: http://forums.psychcentral.com/forumdisplay.php?f=6

So no, you are not making up these problems
you are not helpless
you are not  crazy (technically, legally...well I don't really know you:P).

You are just a human. A fudgie, actually, the best species there is. <3

Promise to write loads more this week, mmkay?

xoxoxoxoxoo
Gabby