Challenge 7 pt2: Dreams > Dimwits

Everyday, more and more people find out about what I do; the conferences, the blog, etc.
Most of the response is positive, which is lovely, so gracias <3

How. EVER.
Because I frequent the dog-eat-dog cage that is high school, some individuals belonging to the teenagerus species seem to have certain...uh-hum... brain deficiences, enabling them from understanding ...well anything, really.

And when such individuals fail to comprehend something, the automatic reaction that occurs in their «brain» (though many scientists would not be quick to even call it A BRAIN)
a). Mock 
b). Critize
c). Laugh uncontrollably as though there is nothing, NOTHING, funnier on this planet of ours than (GASP!) actually doing something with your life

If you are ever mocked or teased for whatever activity or passion you are pursuing, please check out this post I wrote on HOW TO DEAL WITH SUCH SITUATIONS...<3 

That article was written for those specific scenarios when your less-than-genius schoolmate comments, to the best of his small capabilities, on your awesomeness.
TODAY'S ARTICLE is broader and more general.

I want to start doing (insert activity) but...
I want to tell my friends about (insert passion) but...

You know you shouldn't care...
You know those people shouldn't matter...
But you can't stop yourself from being afraid, ashamed, from just plain CARING.

First of all, it's okay.
It's actually pretty fudgin' normal.
You can't just TURN OFF your brain.
Afterall, yours is a little more complex than your mocking neighbour's :)

What you need is a 3 STEP MOTIVATOR, which consists of 3 very simple but very effective steps to keep you motivated against the pessimistic current :)

Step 1. Physical Motivator
Each and every time you feel shame, fear or regret in regards to people's judgements or potential judgements of your passion (which I support 100%, by the way, I don't care what it is), develop some sort of physical «tic».

Raise a shoulder, roll your eyes, something that reminds your brain of how you should react to such judgements.

It will feel weird at first but will become a mechanism the more you do it.
Plus it will remind you about...

Step 2. Verbal Motivator
We are all very easily brainwashed, and as you know, I am strong believer in brainwashing yourself.
So make sure that after step 1, you repeat to yourself (in your head, preferably, because we don't want to scare the children) a single word that reminds you of why you should keep going.
Mine is: Beautiful
Because I want to make yall feel beautiful, and it makes me feel beautiful to accompany you on this journey.
Repeat 5x minimum, and there is no maximum.
Repeat it randomly, all the time, wherever, whenever.

And this word will lead your brain to think about...

Step 3: Visual Motivator 

The last thing you want to picture is a mental image or image sequence/video.
It can be the moment you realized this was it.
It can be a dream or a goal you want to achieve.

Example: I think of a huge stadium, tens of thousands of people for the FP conference, all flashing their FP bracelets and shirts (which are being designed, be patient!)
The look on people's faces when you just summed up exactly how they feel.
The laughter, the tears, the connection on these 10,000 faces.

That's what is in my head. Those are the images that keep me going.

If you apply these to your own dreams and goals, your brain will be too busy to care or worry about others.
Fudge others and their stupid little comments.
You have all these images to look back on, or to look forward to.

I love yallzz so much <333
xoxoxoxoxoxo
Gabby

17 Body Peace Treaty: Day 4

Happy Thursday, my lovely fudgies! <3

Let's get down to business with the 4th vow!
If you have missed the previous posts, the links are to the right of your screen :)

Vow #4: Never allow a dirty look from someone else to influence how I feel about my appearance. 


Ever hear the saying «Beauty is in the eye of the beholder»?
It's easy to tell yourself that you don't care what he/she/it thinks of your appearance, but you can't help feeling a little bit low after getting looked at a certain way or even after hearing a less than flattering comment abour your appearance.
Is this how everyone sees me?
Are they right?
I MUST FIX WHATEVER THEY DISLIKE!

...
And that, ladies and gentleman, is how insecurities are born.
Here are the 3 things you should always tell yourself in the midst of these scenarios:

1. Insecurities lead to insults. There is a reason that person gave you a look.
Think about it:
People who are happy with themselves don't feel the need to bring other people down.
They are much to busy floating on their little cloud of self-love and marshmallows.

However, people who are not feeling so great about themselves L.O.V.E to bring others down to their level, to make people feel what they're feeling, just to make themselves feel just a little bit taller.

This person could have kept what they thought of your looks to themselves (and most likely, they don't even feel the way they portray, they just wanna bring you down), but no.
That is NOT going to make them feel better about their miserable selves.

So instead of feeling anger towards the hate messenger, consider feeling pity.
YOU don't need to step all over people to boost your confidence.
You know you're awesome.
After all, you're a member of the Fudge Perfection Family. ;)

2. Jealous much? 
Here's another reason people glare, stare or share a not-so friendly thought they have about your looks.
They are jealous.

It sometimes is hard to believe, I know. But wether it's your great hair or your bubbly, outgoing personality, they want something you have.
And since modern day science does not permit us to just take attributes from one another, people have to take away from you the only thing they know how to steal:
Your confidence.

So ask yourself this: why would I just give this person what they want?
Return the dirty look with a radiant smile that says: Can't have my confidence either, honey.

3. Blocked by the knowledge of your own beauty. 
No matter how much hate this person is sending you, by a look or a comment, it should just bounce right off of you.

If you already know you are beautiful (which you do, because if you haven't learnt that by now, you might want to go reread everything I have ever posted on the blog. There will be no insecure girls left behind), then whatever stupidly untrue remarks she is saying or thinking about you will just be categorized in the LIES cabinet of your brains.

Your family, your true friends, your pet, and most importantly YOU; those are the people who (should) know you're beautiful.
And those, and ONLY those people are the ones you should care about.

That random girl at the mall?
The dumb jock that takes your bus?
I wouldn't even waste half a brain cell on them.

Alright!!! I hope you enjoyed!
Keep being gorgeous (as if you could ever stop!) <3
xoxoxoxoxxoxo
Gabby